Why Do We Put up with Some People

We come across a variety of people in various walks of life. Some of them turn out to be long lasting relationships and some of them last just a short journey.

Is it right to assume that all the long lasting ones are strong? Do they have complete understanding and perfect compatibility? I do not think so; It may be too idealistic to think that all the long lasting relationships are perfect paintings. It may be that we learn to cope, adjust or put up with less-than-the-ideal relationship.

The key question therefore is: Why do we put up with some people, knowingly that the relationship is anything other than perfect?

Reasons surely vary from person to person.

• It could be the dependency for some essential needs.
• It could be because of socials stigma.
• It could be that I do not want to hurt someone by breaking away.
• It could be a sense of guilt of caring for self
• It could be that others pressurize to put up with.

Irrespective of the reasons, one thing is sure; it is important to carry out a pain-benefit analysis. What is the pain and what is the benefit for putting up with the pain? There could be many who may realize that for no gain, they are putting up with pain. 

In such cases, it is a matter of gathering personal courage to stand up to oneself and assert. Ask oneself: who am I pleasing at the cost of displeasing myself? 

tolerance is good virtue to possess; breaking relationships is a sure sign of intolerance and lack of adjustment among human beings. However, intolerance is required when the differences are at fundamental level related to value system. 

After all, would you like to save relationship at the cost of compromising your value-system? Is the relationship so very valuable that you lose yourself? If it were to be so important, you would not have been intolerant in the first place. 

Think about it! 

Humbling Experience to show gratitude

In India, we celebrate September 5 as Teacher's Day.

Since morning I have been experiencing multitude of feelings...recalling all those who contributed in making me what I am today. Going through a sense of gratitude is a very humbling experience.....by showing gratitude, we don't grow any smaller, that is the beauty!

It is simple yet not-so-often-quoted truth that we have not become what we are all by ourselves, however self-made persons we are....the moment we acknowledge that fact, we become humble and more humane.

Under the garb of being confident, let us not forget the humbling experience of showing our gratitude!