Who inspired me?

It has been quite a while since I blogged. I have been caught up with so much of buzz around me - it left very little time for me to reflect and publish on my blog. Today in fact I am motivated to blog bcos someone asked me a question that made me really think. The question was:

Who inspired in the early part of your career?
Question is too simple. But it made me think. Surely so many come into our lives completely unexpected, some continue with us and some exit. When I reflect back, I could think of many who made a mark on me during my growing up years and as I contibue to grow! How can I place one person in front and say that person inspired me? Was it my father, mother, teacher, manager, friend, some towering personality, some GURU, some book...who inspired me?

Where did I draw my inspiration from and where do I continue to draw?

If I say that none of the above inspired me, then I must have been self-made. I evolved my self and I realized my inner strength and that inspired.

Is that true? Is it possible?

These are questions that are simple, yet powerful. If we discover the answers, it will be help us a great deal when ever we are falling short of energy and in search of inspiration. In other words,

We need to know our source of energy so as to replenish whenever we need so that we can live a life that is always full of energy.

As I continue my instrospection, you too can ponder over these questions.

Old fashined or trendy?

I was talking to a sixteen year old teenager. He was sharing the current excitement among his classmates. The trigger for their excitement stemmed from the idea of coming to college next Tuesday, marking attendance, skipping classes, sneaking out of college and jumping into a movie theatre with pop corn in hand. How exciting and adventurous?

The sixteen year old does not understand why they should skip college when the parents are absolutely open for them to watch a movie. In fact, they have enough money in their pockets and all the freedom to go for a movie. Unconvinced with the whole idea of skipping college for no reason, the sixteen old declined the idea mentally.

However, the dilemma for the sixteen year old boy is how to manage the peer pressure. All his friends want him to join the excitement which he is not convinced about. At the same time, they are good friends and he wants to feel close to them. There is also the other danger of being labeled as old fashioned if he does not act trendy.

What should the teenager do?

Why do we feel low sometimes?

At once, life may look like a drab with nothing exciting around. We search for something that can inspire us, ignite our spirit, and show us some direction. Why does it happen? Is it because we loose interest in what we are doing? Or is it because we fail to see a meaning what we are doing? To break this mood, one can get busy. Keeping oneself busy is the easiest thing to do - we can get into some activity, hop into a movie theatre, chat with friends, eat out or simply get hooked onto television. Even all such action to keep oneself busy does not excite. It is the internal vacuum that one needs to examine and be aware of. Ask oneself the questions like:

• Why am I experiencing such internal vacuum?
• Is it boredom? Am I seeking some change or variety in what I am doing?
• Is it a lack of meaning in what I am doing?
• Am I expecting something that I am not getting at the moment?
• Am experiencing any restlessness because what I wanted is not coming my way?
• Is it because someone criticized my work or no one recognized my work?
• Am I physically too tired?
• Am I experiencing temporary mood swing?
• Am I too anxious about some results to come my way?

An honest introspection on these questions may throw up an answer to understand the internal vacuum and to discover a way to get out of the low mood. I attempted the above approach for myself and found me coming out with a fresh perspective and renewed energy.

Any long spells of low mood needs more closer look and must be addressed at the earliest.

WHY VALUES ? (Part - 2)

Let me continue to share my thoughts on why values (See Part I of WHY VALUES blog post dated May 22-08).

I keep hearing, just as many of you must have heard, that values, principles etc are not for the present day competition. Many people who are aspiring for success, who are working their way up in life, and who are keen on accumulating wealth (in India we call them middle-class) have this notion that principled living, value-based living does not take us far. It won't allow us to grow. Such notion stems from the belief that the world around us is all bad and smart. To survive in such world, we can’t be good and true to our values.

In fact, in many seminars and conferences, I face this question that what you are saying about values is good for conference, but not in real world. They quote sometimes examples of their bosses who grew up the corporate ladder by following not necessarily values and principles. The mantra is therefore - success at any cost!

Prima facie, their argument seems to be having some truth in it however unacceptable to me internally. I know there is something missing. I can quote Built-to-last - a classic book on successful habits of visionary companies. But it all sounds very defensive to push through my agenda of values. I wanted some way where in I don’t have to be pushing too hard, but rather the audience see it for themselves.

I asked them the question: How many of you consider yourself as moderate to high success so far in your life and career? As expected, many hands went up proudly.

Then came my next question: How many of you followed crooked ways and broken your principles to reach where you have successfully reached today?

There was an uneasy silence. I thought point was almost made.

I said" when none of you broken your principles and values and still achieved moderate to high success so far, what gives you the impression that to be successful you need to shed your values and principles?"

To top it up, I asked another question. How many of you like to guide your children towards value-less, principle-less living?

There was silence all over.

I broke it again. So, while we may say and see some examples of successes that are not based on values, mostly we believe in it. But the question of "WHY VALUES" needs to be addressed for our satisfaction. Can I have your thoughts on it?

This time the responses were more spontaneous. The main reasons why we need values are:

• Values give us peace of mind


• We can be true to ourselves


• We don’t have to feel guilty


• We can have our heads high


• Our image will be in tact


• It can attract better reputation


• People tend to trust us more


• Our potential risk will be lower
  
  And lastly, some one summed up the whole discussion beautifully by saying:

"Values give us stability, lasting power and pay off in the long run"

Isn't that a strong enough business case for values?

WHY VALUES?

I was talking to a bunch of executives. I started with a provocative and fuzzy question -

• Are you value driven?
• Do you have values?
  

Predictably, I could see "what do you mean…of course we have values" kind of look on their face.

I repeated the questions so as to break the silence.

"Yes, we have values", sharp came the reply.

Then I asked my sequel question: why do you need values?

I added what I heard from many - "In fact, many believe that values are like barricades to achievement, speed-breakers to our progress, they force us to forgo opportunities…then why are you saying you have values? Aren't they deterrents to your growth?" I also quickly cautioned them not to be politically correct.

That was a tricky poser from me. It is a misty teaser. We get caught between what we know is right and the so called practical world. I have some views on the same. But I wanted to learn about how they react. You like to know the responses? Need to wait for my next blog post….

In the meanwhile, it may be a good idea to give a serious thought to the question:

• Why do you need values?


• Do they help or hamper in your success & growth?

DANCE IN THE RAIN

While starting to build SELF AWARENESS could be like opening the Pandora's box, it can nevertheless be handled with care and sensitivity. For beginners, it can be painful. It may feel exactly same as starting an exercise regime - one may go through inertia, your body may start paining, you may feel like giving up and so on. And if we persist, we become addicted to an extent that we can’t live without it.

When you start introspecting and trying to understand yourself, you may experience a sense of fuzziness; mixed messages; confusion with what you are and what you wanted to be; a sense of fear as if you are not like many around you; a kind of hesitation if you are becoming too philosophical and unrealistic and unfit for the present society and so on. It is quite natural! Its like the thunders that scare us as if earth is shaking; it all goes off once it starts to drizzle and then we can dance in the rain - drenching ourselves in the most poetic experience!

It should be a journey that we should start because we are inspired by it, not because we are forced into. Just like exercising after some body ailment and doctor's advice, we also get into self-introspection after some moving incident in our life. But do we need to wait for shocking incidents to learn about ourselves? Are we so boring to ourselves? Certainly not, I guess!

Here is a simple set of questions that I scribbled. They can serve as a starting point. If we know the answers to these questions with some sense of clarity, we must congratulate ourselves. That’s a great beginning! If you feel like, try it out - I attempted for myself.

• What do I have?


• What do I want to have?


• What do I need to have? (please note the difference between wants and needs)


• Why do I need it? What prompts me to have it?


• Am I capable of getting what I want?


• What guides me on my path?
  

SELF AWARENESS - Deal with it carefully!

In my earlier blog post (dated May 20, 08) - Personal Measures of success - I shared my thoughts how important it is to eat to feed own stomach. It also speaks about having personal clarity which can help us take important decisions and stand by them. All of this boils down to having self-awareness and constantly building on it.

Many renowned people spoke about it. In the book shops, we find many of the so-called easy to use booklets on self-improvement, They are useful in their own way. There are other authors like Robin Sharma, Stephen Covey, Deepak Chopra who excelled through their writings. I personally feel that no one can make any judgemental comment on any one's authorship. I for one believe that every book will have something to tell us. Its the style, conviction, ease etc that make some books suit our taste. Beyond that I don't want to undermine the effort of the author.

Among many of such writings, one article that appealed to my senses very much is the article by Peter Drucker: Managing Oneself, published a few years ago in Harvard Business Review. We all know Peter Drucker as a renowned 'GURU' in the field of management. It was surprising for me that after half a century of writing experience in management field, he chose to write an article on SELF. I was pleasantly surprised to see that. Anyways, a person of that stature writes about SELF, it catches our attention and also reinforces my belief that SELF is the center of much of the action around us.

While understanding self is important, there is a small danger for the beginners. Once we open up the exploration of SELF, we must also know how to steer it through meaningfully. Lest we may be more confused than what we were earlier. Thats leads to other question - what is SELF AWARENESS and how to approach it?